It’s hard to know what to say when sending condolences. But it’s important to let the bereaved know you care. It offers comfort in one of their hardest times. Sometimes a small gesture means a lot.

What does it mean to send condolences?

Sending condolences means contacting someone who has recently experienced the death of a family member or friend. When you send condolences, you are recognizing their loss.

If you’re feeling unsure of where to start, first remember that the primary aim of sending a condolence message is simply to let your friend or loved one know that you are thinking of them during a difficult time. 

When to send condolences?

If you are close with the bereaved one, you should send your condolences as soon as you learn about the death of their loved one. You can also send a card with sympathy flowers within a few days or close to the funeral or memorial service. 

Sending condolences can be hard for many people. If you aren’t able to send a message around the time that someone has passed, you can still send a message at a later date. It is appropriate to apologise for the delay and share that you struggled to find the right words. For those who experience a loss, it can be comforting to know that they are still in your thoughts beyond the immediate period of loss and grief. 

In short, it’s never too late to let someone know that you acknowledge their loss and are thinking of them. 

How to send condolences with a meaningful message?

A meaningful sympathy message is one that is heartfelt. Offer words of hope if possible and let the grieving person or family know they are not alone. It is not meant to be a long, drawn-out message or conversation, but rather a short, heartfelt message. It may be accompanied by a small floral gift. In today's era, you could send your condolences via text or social media, but keep in mind that it depends on the situation and the person.

Simple Condolences Messages

“Please accept my deepest sympathies to you and your family"

“May peace be with you.”

“We hope you find peace and comfort in your time of grief.”

“Let the memories provide comfort in your journey through this loss.”

“I send my prayers and support to you and your family during this difficult time.”

“Rest In Peace, dear friend. Wishing you comfort and peace.”

“My heart is saddened by your loss.”

“Please accept our sincerest condolences. We are thinking of you.”

“My thoughts and prayers are with you at this time.”

“We hope you can find comfort in the memories and celebration of their life.”

Religious Condolences Messages

“May God be with you and your family in this very sad time.”

“I will pray for you all, and keep you in my thoughts.”

“May God grant you and your family the strength to bear this loss.”

“God bless you and keep you in his care.”

“May the Lord bless you in this time of need.”

“As a testament to your strength and courage, you are in our prayers.”

“Please know you are in our thoughts and prayers, and that we are sharing in your sorrow.”

“We wish that God will grant you the power to overcome this difficult moment.”

“I hope God gives strength to your family during this painful time.”

“May God take care of you and watch over you.”

What not to say to someone who has lost a loved one

We all want to avoid saying the wrong thing to someone who has recently experienced a loss. While writing your condolences try to follow these tips:

Don’t say you know how they feel

Even if you knew the deceased or have experienced a similar loss, you don’t know exactly how they are feeling. Focus your message on them and their loss.

Don’t try to look for a positive angle

Allow the bereaved to get through the grieving process in their own time and don’t rush them to find a bright side. 

Don’t involve religion or the afterlife

Unless you know for sure that the bereaved person and the deceased believed in life after death, don’t mention that.

Don’t say what you would do

Focus your message on the loss this person is experiencing and extend your sympathies.